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SRI DHARMA MITTRA

SRI DHARMA MITTRA

SRI DHARMA MITTRA

By Joneil Adriano – Owner, Living Yoga

PROFILES

BEN CLARK INTERVIEW
For nearly 15 years, I’ve had the great blessing of studying with Sri Dharma Mittra, whose humility, humor, and unwavering devotion have profoundly shaped my understanding of yoga. Long before yoga became a global phenomenon, Dharma-ji left his home in Brazil with few possessions and only a rudimentary grasp of English. He was answering a deep inner call to study with his guru, Sri Swami Kailashananda, in New York City. 

From those early, austere, and lonely years in the ashram, he went on to establish one of New York City’s first yoga centers, eventually becoming a world-renowned yoga teacher. Now in his late 80s, and with more than half a century of teaching, Dharma-ji’s path has been one of discipline, service, and compassion. In this intimate conversation, he reflects on his formative experiences and offers timeless guidance for anyone called to create a space for yoga and community today.

When you first met Yogi Gupta, how did you know he was going to be your guru?
Well, that is one thing that is beyond belief. I felt that he was the right guru, especially after our first meeting. Just like when you’re trying to find a spouse, right? Sometimes at first sight, you feel – that’s it! 

You did not speak English at the time, right? 
No, I knew one or two sentences, “I am hungry. I need money. Thank you.”

How difficult was it to communicate with him?
My younger brother had to do the translation. I bought a little book about Moby Dick. It’s a book to teach people how to improve their English. So I started copying and memorizing, little by little. Trying to listen to the TV and to the radio. And gradually, I started getting better. 

My goal first was to learn English enough to conduct a class. You see, for many years, my English was just enough to conduct a hatha yoga class and a pranayama class, but I could not read the scriptures or explain the Bhagavad Gita. So I did more silent meditation. If the student asked me any question that I could not answer, I said to him, “Why don’t you talk to my guru?” But it was extremely difficult if you cannot communicate. I’m still having lots of problems with English! In order to share knowledge, you have to speak well to give the right knowledge. I am still working on it.

How long before you taught your first yoga class under Yogi Gupta?
That was about three years, in 1967. I went to teach my first class in a health club and my English was just enough to conduct the class. But I didn’t succeed much. When you don’t speak well, they don’t understand. They fire you.

How many years did you spend in the ashram with Yogi Gupta?
I lived in the ashram, maybe 11 or 10 years. The main ashram was located on 56th Street, close to Lexington [in New York City]. It was an old brownstone building that was close to being demolished. Then we decided to rent and fix the building. I was the handyman. Then we moved into this ashram. We have maybe 5-10 disciples giving classes.

What were some of the most important things you learned there?
Well, my goodness. First, what struck me was to learn how to cope with loneliness and pain when you don’t have anything outside anymore. No money, no family, not what you want to eat, no cigarettes, no alcohol. You understand? No movies, no friends. Since I could not speak English, I had no friends, no communication. 

When we were in the ashram, I learned about my level of ignorance. I learned how stupid I was, how ignorant, and how I lacked self-control. I realized we have to purify the mind in order to feel, not in peace, but to feel ready to concentrate on knowledge. To follow some of these instructions, you need discipline. I learned how to get healthy. Also, — the most important — I learned how to gradually cope with obstacles. When you feel depressed, when you feel temptations. So you learn how to cope with them. I had difficulties going through it, but I knew how to go through it with faith. 

I also learned that the action of compassion is to see yourself in others, and see the discomfort there. The same technique I used to place myself in the guru and try to force myself to feel what he’s feeling. You learn to place yourself in others for different purposes. So that’s part of compassion, empathy. 

How did he tell you that you were ready to start your own yoga school?
Actually, he didn’t tell me when I was ready. I was the one who told him I had enough of hearing his lectures for 20 years!

My younger brother was also there, so when he left, I was in total darkness. My brother later opened a little yoga center, teaching at a hotel. I said, “Why am I not doing the same? I don’t need anything here anymore.” So I left the ashram. Before I left, I asked the guru. He said, “That’s fine. Do your best. If you need help, use the phone.”

I didn’t have any money. I met one of my students and he said,  “Why don’t you go downtown? I have a loft there, 3,000 square feet. Why don’t you go there? You can fix it and start teaching.” Then I received a call from a student. This lady, she lives on the East Side, near Central Park, she sent me some money to pay for a private class. I remember it was $200. It was exactly what I needed! I fixed the place and in one week, I had a full class.

A full class? In one week?
Yeah, $1 or $1.50 classes. But at that time, everything was not too expensive.

It was almost like God was watching you and giving you what you needed to start your yoga center.
Oh, yes, little by little. I remember in one year, I had $1,350. That was enough to rent another place on 29th Street. One of my students’ husband owns a little building on 29th Street and Seventh Avenue. The second floor is empty, he said he can rent that to me for $230. So I bought a neon sign to put in the window, and after a few days, I had a full class.

You used to make the signs, too, right? The neon?
Yeah, I went downtown to a school where you learn how to bend them. You burn your hand, though!

What are some of the differences between the students you had then versus the students you have now?
Remember, everything evolves. Today, technology – cell phones, internet – is a very strong distraction. The students change a little bit, they are not that reverent and obedient anymore because there are so many choices.

A good teacher adjusts the yoga according to the lifestyle of today. If I ran a class here the way it should be, the way I learned in a traditional way, this room would be empty. Today, people are more active. They are restless. So we have to adjust the poses according to their conditions.

Today, it’s also a blessing because we have the internet. You can have your vegan diet online. If you’re lazy, you can order from Juice Press. So you can make students succeed much easier. You can find any scripture on the internet overnight. So students change, we change, and the techniques to share the divine knowledge change.

With all of the changes, how do you still honor tradition and the lineage?
Tradition, I understand, but lineage, what means lineage? Like my guru, I don’t know which lineage. I don’t care what lineage. I never even understand this word. It doesn’t make no difference to me. But tradition, my tradition is just a tradition, but that tradition keeps moving. (Laughter) Tradition has to keep updating. Not the essence. Everything needs some updates.

If somebody came to you and said, “I want to start a yoga center,” what is your advice to them?
Sit quietly. No distractions, no cell phone, no food, no watching TV. Then see where you want your yoga center, the location. It has to be comfortable. It has to be soft.

Remember, if you rent a place in a building today, you have different laws. You have to have access for [disabled people] to go up. And get ready for the first day, the second, even a week, you won’t have much business. That’s why I have three months [saved up] already. If I don’t have any money for three months, I still can pay all the bills.

Is there anything else you want to share?
The first thing you have to do with the students: get them in good health. Force them to improve their compassion, because that leads to the rest. You get more enthusiasm to ask, “Who am I? What’s next?” When a student comes to you, pay attention. Your communication is very important.

Remember, we are not pure enough, we have not achieved anything yet. We’re just sharing what we have here. I’m still learning so many things every day. So keep sharing, but don’t share too much. Keep your secrets. Share only for those who are ready. Because if you start opening too much, giving, you’re losing your energy and you’ll be empty. Every year, you may notice you are at a different level. You may notice your students are at different levels. So as you grow, you attract the crowd of people with you.

Last thing — very important: Tell them not to forget to pay.


Learn more:dharmayogacenter.com

INTERVIEW WITH KAYOKO MITSUMATSU: FOUNDER AND EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR, YOGA GIVES BACK

INTERVIEW WITH KAYOKO MITSUMATSU: FOUNDER AND EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR, YOGA GIVES BACK

INTERVIEW WITH KAYOKO MITSUMATSU: FOUNDER AND EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR, YOGA GIVES BACK

By: Kay Epple, founder Dharamsala TC and Board Member and Global Ambassador for Yoga Gives Back

PROFILES

BEN CLARK INTERVIEW

Yoga has given me so much—clarity, strength, and a deep sense of peace. But I believe our practice is incomplete if it doesn’t reach back to its roots. As a Board Member and Global Ambassador for Yoga Gives Back, a non-profit organization that raises funds for underserved women and children in India, I am committed to the belief that when you empower a woman, you uplift an entire community.

Through my work on the board and within our committees, I’ve seen firsthand how micro-loans break the cycle of poverty, offering mothers the dignity of entrepreneurship and daughters the gift of an education. This is how I take my yoga off the mat and into the world. It is my way of practicing Seva (selfless service), ensuring that the energy we cultivate in our studios translates into real-world empowerment for those at the heart of this tradition.”  

I had an opportunity to connect with Kayoko Mitsumatsu, Founder and Executive Director, Yoga Gives Back. Learn more here about this inspiring organization.

When the idea for Yoga Gives Back first came to you, what fears or doubts did you have about starting something like this? And what ultimately allowed you to move forward anyway?
When the idea first came to me, I had no experience running a nonprofit, no roadmap, and no guarantee that anyone would support it. I had simply been a documentary filmmaker for two decades when I fell in love with yoga in an Ashtanga yoga classroom in Los Angeles and felt a very strong inner calling to give back to Mother India, the source of this sacred practice.

Of course, I had doubts. I asked myself, Who am I to start something like this? Can I really create a nonprofit organization? Can I build a bridge between yoga practitioners in the West and women and children in India? Who would I work with?

But what allowed me to move forward was the clarity of the idea itself. I had been learning about microfinance, and I realized that for the cost of one yoga class, you could change a life in India. Once I shared that idea with my yoga teacher, studio owner, and friends, the response was immediate. Everyone said, “Yes, this makes sense.”

That encouragement, combined with the inner conviction I felt through yoga philosophy, gave me the courage to begin. We coined our mantra:
“For the cost of one class, you can change a life.”

Do you remember the first moment you realized this work was truly making a difference in someone’s life? What happened in that moment?
Yes. One of the earliest and most powerful realizations came through a boy named Guruprasad, whom I met in India in 2007. He was 15 years old, from a very poor family, and his mother had just received microloans. I began filming their story, thinking I was documenting one family’s struggle to survive.

But year after year, I watched his determination grow. He wanted to become a doctor, not only for himself, but to serve his poor community. Yoga Gives Back continued supporting his education as he advanced, and eventually he became a dental oncological surgeon.

In 2019, he said something to me I will never forget: I am a seed. Yoga Gives Back is water. You watered this seed to grow into a tree. Now this tree can shelter thousands of people.”

That was one of the moments when I truly understood that this work was not just helping someone survive. It was helping someone become a force for others. And through that, we also learn one of life’s most valuable lessons: to help others with gratitude. To me, that is one of the ultimate goals of yoga.

Can you share the story of one woman or family in India whose life was deeply changed through Yoga Gives Back?
There are so many, but one story that always stays with me is about a woman in West Bengal who suffered terrible domestic violence because she gave birth to a daughter instead of a son. Her husband abused her for years.

When she joined one of our microloan groups, everything began to change. The loan itself mattered, of course, because it gave her a way to earn income. But even more important was the sisterhood that formed around her. For the first time, she was no longer isolated. She had other women standing beside her.

During COVID, her rope-making business was the only one in her village that survived and even grew. Eventually, the same husband who had abused her had to ask her to teach him the business. In the end, she became the one employing him.

To me, this is the real power of YGB’s work. It is not just financial support. It is dignity, voice, protection, and inner empowerment.

How has creating and leading Yoga Gives Back changed you as a person?
Creating Yoga Gives Back has changed me completely. In many ways, it asked me to leave behind my former identity as a documentary filmmaker and step fully into my life’s mission. I stopped working toward deadlines and instead immersed myself in a deeper purpose: to give back. It has made my life feel whole.

During my years in documentary filmmaking, I often felt I was telling important stories, but after the broadcast was over, I sometimes carried a sense of guilt that I had witnessed suffering without being able to stay in relationship with the people whose lives I filmed. With Yoga Gives Back, that changed. This work became my life’s work.

It has given me the opportunity to listen more deeply to our fund recipients, to become less judgmental, and to stay responsible to the people whose stories I carry. It has also transformed my understanding of service. I no longer see yoga as something only for personal well-being. I see it as a path that asks us to care for ourselves physically and mentally so that we can serve others.

On a personal level, this work has made me more humble, more persistent, and more hopeful. It has also shown me that when a mission is authentic, the right people keep appearing to help carry it forward.

For someone practicing yoga in the U.S. who might be hearing about Yoga Gives Back for the first time, why should they care? What becomes possible when people participate in this kind of giving?

I believe they should care if they are receiving any benefit from yoga. This gift is not for consumption or selfish goals alone. It is an ancient wisdom tradition that aims to make us more compassionate.

Yoga teaches connection, gratitude, karma yoga, and seva. If this practice has blessed our lives, then giving back to its birthplace is a very natural expression of that gratitude.

What becomes possible is extraordinary. A very small gift can create real transformation in India—a microloan for a mother, education for a child, support for a college student, dignity for a young girl who might otherwise be pushed toward child marriage, human trafficking, or lifelong poverty.

But something else also becomes possible: the yoga practitioner changes, too. Giving turns yoga from a personal wellness routine into a living spiritual practice. It deepens our understanding of humanity and human potential in service of something greater. It reconnects us to the true purpose of yoga, which is not only self-improvement, but service and union.

What is something this work has taught you about humanity that you didn’t expect?
One of the most beautiful things this work has taught me is that gratitude is not a soft feeling—it is a force.

At the beginning, I did not fully understand that when someone receives a life-changing opportunity with dignity and love, they often want to pass it forward. I have seen this again and again. Children who grew up in very difficult circumstances become adults filled with gratitude, and then they commit themselves to helping the next generation. Young women who receive an education go back to serve their communities.

This is why I often speak about an eternal circulation of gratitude. At first, I thought we were simply raising money and sending it where the need was greatest. But over the years, I realized we were also helping spark a chain of human connection—gratitude turning into action, and action turning into more gratitude. That has been one of the deepest lessons of my life.

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: DIANNE BONDY

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: DIANNE BONDY

Letter to my younger self: Dianne Bondy

PROFILES

BEN CLARK INTERVIEW

If you could write a letter to your younger self what would it say? We asked these amazing people in our community to write letters, and were blown away by the love, compassion and humor they shared. Dianne Bondy shares her letter here.

Dearest Dianne,

It’s me, your older self. I LOVE YOU. I want to tell you something important. If everything seems overwhelming, I assure you that childhood is just a phase, a small part of your entire existence. I know it’s tough; you might feel small, awkward, and unseen. But your uniqueness is what makes you special. School is temporary, and it’s okay to feel this way. It’s just a tiny part of your journey.

I know no one looks like you at school or in your friend circle, and it makes you feel ugly. But you are not ugly; you are beautiful. Societal beauty standards are ugly. Authenticity is what makes people beautiful.

People will make fun of and underestimate you based on their insecurity. Kids are cruel. I know school is hard. You will learn later in life your grades don’t reflect your intelligence. You are not stupid. You learn differently. You have a learning limitation that is not yet diagnosed or known. You will overcome it. You will learn to manage it. You will teach yourself. The teacher in 12th grade who told you that you were illiterate will eat those words when you write two best-selling books. Yes, you will become a writer and published author. Yes, you, the one with the bad grades. School is a limiting force for you. You need to get through it.

Ignore the bullies. With all its challenges, high school is just a temporary phase in your life. It is meant to teach you important lessons. One of the most important is to choose your friends carefully, observe how people treat you, and keep your friend circle small and close. Not everyone is for you, and that’s okay as long as you know who you are and what you believe.

Stay true to you. I want you to celebrate your fierce independence, outspoken will, and dedication to justice. These qualities will serve you well in the future. Your independence will help you make bold decisions, being outspoken will give you a voice in important matters, and your dedication to justice will guide you in making fair choices. It feels inconvenient for people around you who want to keep you small. It is because of their insecurity and small ideas of how young women and girls should behave.

One of your most significant challenges will be believing in yourself. Your father will both feed and thrive on your insecurities, not out of malice, but from his unhealed wounds. Your strength threatens him, yet you will be the one to break this cycle of generational pain. You will be the one to chart a new path forward. Stay strong and trust your instincts — you’re exactly where you need to be. Trust the little voice in your head. It’s your higher self moving forward. Ignore the voices that drag you down.

You are brave, strong, and beautiful. You don’t look like everyone else, which makes your beauty unique. Stay true to your dreams, and don’t let anyone shake your confidence. You are brilliant, and one day, the world will know this. You will survive this and flourish.

Believe in the future that awaits you, Dianne. You will be a changemaker, an innovator, a disruptor, a culture shifter. You will build a beautiful family and lead a good life. All this is possible if you trust the process. The challenges you face now will only make you stronger. Your unique qualities and experiences will make you a successful and compassionate individual.

Trust in yourself and the journey you’re on.
Dianne

THE M FACTOR

THE M FACTOR

THE M FACTOR

By LouLou Piscatore

Photo by: Jenny Sherman

PROFILES

BEN CLARK INTERVIEW

Tamsen Fadal is rewriting the narrative for women in midlife. After more than 30 years as a news anchor, she made the decision to pivot her career to focus on all things menopause. She co-produced the documentary, “The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause,” which premiered on PBS in October. She also wrote the book, How to Menopause: Take Charge of Your Health, Reclaim Your Life, and Feel Even Better than Before. Her goal is to eliminate the stigma of menopause and foster an environment where women feel comfortable discussing their midlife transition. From the boardroom to the doctor’s office, Tamsen advocates for a world where women can manage their lives with confidence, no matter their age.

Tell us about what drove you to be a menopause advocate?
One night while I was reading the news, I was blindsided by heart palpitations, brain fog, and symptoms I later learned were part of an epic hot flash. For the first time in decades, I didn’t finish the newscast. It turns out I was in menopause, and it started me on a journey to understand what was happening. I was shocked by the lack of open conversation and resources available to women. I became a menopause advocate after experiencing the complexities of menopause myself and realizing how underserved this phase of life is in both society and healthcare.

Let’s talk about women’s health: how hard is it to get medical help with menopause symptoms?
It can be really challenging for many women to find the right medical help for menopause symptoms. There’s often a lack of awareness and understanding among healthcare providers about menopause, perimenopause, and the management of symptoms. Luckily, we are seeing more doctors seeking to understand it, and we are helping women not feel fear or shame when it comes to seeking help. There is no excuse for a woman being dismissed when she is trying to be treated.

Which kinds of practitioners do you find to be the most helpful? 
It would be ideal if all practitioners were educated about menopause, which is why I am so thrilled our documentary, The M Factor: Shredding the Silence on Menopause, has been accredited for continuing medical education (CME) credits. We need every type of provider to understand this, from gynecologists to endocrinologists to mental health professionals to holistic practitioners like dietitians and physical therapists, who can offer lifestyle advice to help manage symptoms.

You mention “34 symptoms of menopause,” what are some of the most surprising ones? 
Some of the surprising symptoms include changes in body odor, electric shock sensations, and a feeling of dread or doom. These less talked about symptoms often catch women off guard because they are not as widely recognized as hot flashes or night sweats.

What is the most common question you get asked about menopause? 
The most common question I get asked is, “Why don’t I feel like myself?” Many women are looking for reassurance that their menopause symptoms are a typical part of the transition and not something more serious. And that they are not alone.

You have said that “menopause is a transition, not a disease.” What advice would you offer someone navigating their own transition? 
I would advise women to embrace menopause as a natural part of life and focusing on self-care. This can include educating yourself about what to expect, seeking support from other women, and advocating for oneself in medical settings to ensure you receive the care you need. Plus, we can’t leave men out of the conversation — they must understand what we are dealing with and how to recognize the symptoms.

Research shows that women are generally happier post menopause, why do you think that is? 
Many women find a sense of freedom and relief after menopause. The challenges of menstrual cycles and fertility concerns are behind them, which can lead to a newfound sense of control over their bodies and lives.

Tell me a little about your book. 
How to Menopause is the expert-driven, girlfriend approved guide for women navigating this transition. It covers everything from understanding and managing symptoms to lifestyle changes and relationship advice. I interviewed 42 experts to get the resources and advice in the book, so women can learn to not just survive but thrive during menopause and beyond.

What do you think the future looks like for women’s health and menopause care? 
I’m optimistic about the future of women’s health and menopause care. With increased awareness and advocacy, we’re seeing more research, better healthcare solutions, and a growing number of resources dedicated to supporting women through menopause. Plus, we are seeing telehealth companies, such as Alloy Women’s Health, Midi Health, and Maven, reaching more women than ever before. I am excited to see it happening.

How do you feel that attitudes about menopause are changing? 
Attitudes toward menopause are definitely changing, becoming more open and informed. There’s a growing recognition that menopause is a significant life stage that deserves attention and care, not something to be whispered about or endured in silence. But we are nowhere near done making noise — this is not just a moment that menopause is having — this is a movement.

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: HAILEY KINTER

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: HAILEY KINTER

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: HAILEY KINTER

PROFILES

BEN CLARK INTERVIEW

If you could write a letter to your younger self what would it say? We asked some amazing people in our community to write letters, and were blown away by the love, compassion and humor they shared. Hailey Kinter shares her letter here.

Dear Little Hailey,

Your life is going to appear very different, yet feel just as ordinary as anyone else’s.

Life is hard.

Your childhood will suddenly be taken from you. There will be many terrifying 911 calls, ambulance rides, and traumatic resuscitations. You’re going to survive this to see your twenties, but you won’t be “okay” for a long time.

Doctors won’t take you seriously until you require CPR at just 18 years old. You won’t get diagnosed for several more years, and there’s no cure yet. You will get very familiar with suffering. You will have countless heart, vascular, GI, and kidney surgeries. You will experience physical pain so severe you will beg for your life to end. You’ll fight hard but remain sick. Sometimes you will lose hope, and feel helpless. You will feel totally alone. You’ll spend numerous birthdays and holidays in the hospital. Doctors, nurses, and sometimes even people you love will say hurtful things out of frustration, fear, and denial. Friends and family will get desensitized to your suffering and fragility. Only people who are brave enough to love someone who is facing death so often will stick around. You will forever grieve.

You will be made to feel not disabled enough, while at the same time too disabled. You will never be enough for other people. You do too much while you don’t do enough. You will make many mistakes. Because you’re human and you’re not special.

Acceptance isn’t giving up, it is waking up. You are always enough, you’re perfectly imperfect.

Even though sometimes you’ll feel alone, you never truly are. You are loved and appreciated so much more than you know. The unlimited love you shower others with is returned to you every day. You just have to remember to open your eyes. Your courage to stay vulnerable and open is rewarded with others around you feeling safe to do the same. Your kindness creates a ripple effect that spreads in ways you do not see.

The most important person in your life is you. Prioritize how you treat yourself, how you talk to yourself, and how you love yourself over any other relationship. Your opinion of yourself, your validation, your acceptance, is the most important.

What do you want? What do you think?

When life gets you down, don’t fret; downhills are much easier than uphills when you’re in a wheelchair. The comforting thing about rock bottom is that it’s only up from there. After rock bottom, your sensitivity for joy and gratitude are heightened.

Most people are not awake to the small ordinary moments, they lack appreciation. They don’t look for the beauty amongst the pain.

Being human means suffering. Feeling alone, not having others validate our experiences, looking outside of ourselves for acceptance and love…everyone experiences that.

You’re still going to be educated.

You’re still going to be successful.

You’ll save lives and make a difference as a paramedic. Then your disability will change, and you’ll have to adapt the ways you impact others. Don’t underestimate the power you have in sharing your story. Your resilience will help and inspire people to keep going when they’re in the dark themselves. When you light your path, you light the way for others, too.

You’re going to fall in love. When you are least expecting it, you will fall in love with a lifeguard who you’ll grow and laugh with for eight years. Then you’ll grow apart and fall out of love. Your heart will break and heal many times. You’ll learn to fall in love with yourself, and your life. You’ll fall in love again, in many ways, like with your zebra friends, yoga, and parasurfing.

In the end, none of us get out of this alive, so celebrate each day you wake up. Rock your scars and wrinkles, you’re a survivor! When life gets tough, lean on people, we weren’t meant to suffer alone.

Keep your head up, and your heart open. Strive to be present, but not perfect.

We made it to 29,

Hailey Kinter

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: JIVANA HEYMAN

LETTER TO MY YOUNGER SELF: JIVANA HEYMAN

Letter to my younger self: Jivana Heyman

photo: SaritRodgers

PROFILES

BEN CLARK INTERVIEW

If you could write a letter to your younger self what would it say? We asked some amazing people in our community to write letters, and were blown away by the love, compassion and humor they shared. Jivana Heyman shares his letter here.

Dear Jivana,

Sending you love and support for your journey ahead. I know there will be challenging times, but you’ll find your way through. You have more strength than you realize. In fact, your biggest weakness is your self-doubt. The sooner you let it go, the more you’ll enjoy life, and the more service you’ll be able to offer the world. Embrace your queerness as quickly as you can, and as fully as possible. Being queer is a gift, not a curse.

Your youthful idealism is a strength, not a weakness. Keep on imagining a world full of peace and justice, even if they constantly tell you that you’re naive. In the end, the love and care you have for other people and for nature is all that really matters. Love your friends, family, and pets even more, but don’t become too attached at the same time. Nothing is permanent, and many of them will leave you, and many will die. 

Keep practicing yoga and meditation with your full heart, and start teaching as soon as you can. Don’t get stuck in imposter syndrome and wait so long to share the practice you love with your community. It’s a great way to deepen your practice and be of service simultaneously. (In fact, we’re going on 30 years of teaching in 2025!) Teaching yoga is the biggest gift you’ll receive. Appreciate it for what it is, and recognize the awesome power and responsibility that it brings. 

Remember that ethics are the heart of spirituality. They’ll protect you and keep you on the right track. In fact, the yamas, yoga’s ethical principles, are the protection that you need to navigate the challenges that life will continue to throw at you. They are like a shield to help keep you safe when things feel dangerous.

That reminds me–work on your boundaries! They are the key to everything. Love everyone, but don’t fall in love with everyone. Be open and welcoming, but don’t let people trample all over you. In fact, that’s my main message. Find a way to believe in yourself that is stable and grounded. I don’t mean that you should become egotistical; instead, feel your strength in your mind and body, and know that it’s a reflection of your spirit, which is shared with all beings. Allow your strength to be a vehicle for connection with others, rather than separation. 

In general, people are good, but that doesn’t mean you have to listen to them. Instead, listen to that small voice in your heart and don’t ever stop listening. Remember, meditation is the language of that voice, so the more you practice, the easier it will be to understand the messages that are coming from deep within you. Like sonar echoing in the deepest ocean, meditation will help you navigate the dark, treacherous waters of the world. 

You’ve got this!

Love,

Jivana